Thursday, July 20, 2023

A Review of the Book "Creating Meaningful Funeral Experiences" by Allan D Wolfelt



Title: Creating Meaningful Funeral Experiences
Author: Alan D Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Year: 2011
94 pages

Ever read one of those books that you wish you had read a long time ago? That's what this one is for me. Creating Meaningful Funeral Experiences is a neat little handbook for anyone who wants to learn how to work with families as they create a funeral for their loved ones, something that's worth keeping close at hand for reference.

In the first two parts, Wolfelt discusses why funerals appear to have become a thing of the past and why people need to be reminded of the important purpose of funerals, regardless of at a church, chapel, funeral home, or any other location.

The third section is really the meat of the book. In this section Wolfelt talks about the importance of creating a meaningful funeral experience. He tells us that funerals should attempt to hit all our senses as it is the sense that brings up memories.

The last two sections gives ideas on how to bring meaning to the funeral, the practicalities of doing the work Wolfelt insists needs to be done in the third section. These sections are definitely more geared towards funeral home directors as there are a lot of things that clergy can't control, but it would apply for funerals in churches and it gives clergy ways of speaking with families when discussing funeral plans.

Wolfelt's book is an excellent, well-written piece of reference material. I recommend it for lay persons, clergy, and anyone else involved in doing funerals.

Wednesday, July 19, 2023

A Life Full of Choices: A Sermon Delivered at Luther Village Family Camp

Photo by Damian Siodłak on unsplash.com

Does anyone here like to cook or bake?

 

Over the years, I have discovered that cooking and baking are two very different things. In cooking, I start with a recipe to get the base list of ingredients and cooking times. If the recipe is new, I might buy the exact ingredients I need. Very often, though, I am missing an ingredient or two and either drop them from the meal or replace them. It’s fairly easy to change up things like the protein, the vegetable, and even some of the seasonings to use what I already happen to have on hand. I especially love making chili because I can open the fridge, freezer, and cupboards and just throw in whatever ingredients I find!

 

I learned pretty quickly that a baking recipe really needs to be followed to the letter. The exact amount of flour, sugar, baking powder, salt, and the like must be used or the recipe turns out either completely different or completely disastrous. There isn’t total rigidity. When I was baking the banana bread, I changed the walnuts for chocolate chips, but for the most part, baking requires you to be specific in what ingredients are used and how much.

 

Baking is a science. You should always pick the best ingredients and follow the law of the recipe. Cooking is more flexible. Sure, you could go out and buy the best ingredients, or you could cook with what you have and let God take care of the rest. Of course, in the end, just because you follow the recipe, doesn’t mean everything will work out. Sometimes, we make poor choices in ingredients. I once replaced pasta with lentils (because I had some in the cupboard and wanted to use them up) and ended up with mush. I think we ended up ordering pizza that night.

 

Our lives are full of choices, and not just in the kitchen. We live with so many choices, so many obligations, so many demands and opportunities that can become overwhelming. How often have you had two opportunities fall into your lap and you had to spend time weighing out the pros and cons, praying that you will make the right decision? How many times in your life have you made a choice knowing that you have to just wait and see what happens in order to see the fruits of that decision?

 

This is where today’s parable comes in. Yes, the sower planted with good seeds. Yes, there are now weeds strewn among the wheat that puts the ideal harvest the sower had imagined at risk. Ideally, the servants could just rip out the weeds, but the sower knows that to tear out the weeds now risks ruining the maturing wheat as well. And so the sower must wait, living with both the wheat and the weeds until the day of harvest when they may be separated in due time.

 

Our lives are littered with situations where there is no clear or easy answer. That is where faith becomes so important. In this parable, Jesus tells us that in challenging situations we have the promise that, in the end, God will sort things out. That doesn’t mean everything will turn out just fine. Sometimes we don’t choose well. Sometimes things go wrong.

 

We don’t live in an ideal world and each week we’re faced with challenging decisions, some small and others large, to which there is no clear answer. Some decisions we’ll get right, others wrong, and still others we won’t know whether we were right or wrong for months or years to come. But we still need to make them. And then, each week, no matter how we fared, we can come back to church on Sunday morning to be reminded that God loves us anyway and promises that, in the end, God will hold all of our choices and all of our lives together in love.

 

The promise here isn’t that Christian faith prevents hardship; the promise is that we are not justified by our right choices but rather by grace through faith. And knowing we have God’s boundless goodness, love, welcome, and forgiveness in spite of our choices frees us to live in the moment.

 

Amen.

  

Tuesday, July 18, 2023

A Review of the Book "The Anglican Tradition" Edited by Richard Holloway


Title: The Anglican Tradition
Author: Richard Holloway, editor
Publisher: Anglican Book Centre
Year: 1984
124 pages

This little book is a collection of essays from five prominent authors within the Anglican tradition. The goal of the book was to provide an overview of Anglican theological, liturgical, and spiritual traditions, as well as a bit of Anglican history. I would say that it achieved its goal.

Overall, The Anglican Tradition was not a difficult read and it surely did provide a decent amount of background information about what it means to be an Anglican. It would certainly be a good start for anyone exploring the denomination.

It will be a good little book to keep on my shelves, however it is dated. As you can see above, it was published in 1984. While none of the historical facts will change, it would be interesting to read a similar set of essays written by today's generation of Anglican voices. Would traditions and beliefs looks similar, different, or somewhere in the middle?

Friday, July 14, 2023

A Review of the Book "Queer Virtue" by Reverend Elizabeth M Edman


Title: Queer Virtue
Author: Reverend Elizabeth M Edman
Publisher: Beacon Press Books
Year: 2016
167 pages

Based on the tag line on this book, I think I expected more out of it than I got. The writing seemed to be all over the place and there was nothing in it that got me any more excited about Christianity than before I read it.

What I think Edman was trying to do was explain the virtues that the queer community can bring to Christianity as an argument against those who believe that homosexuality and homosexuals have no place in the church. At some points in the book, her discussions did lead that way but she spent a good chunk of the book talking about sex and scandal and not completely linking it to her overall concept.

One issue I particularly had a problem with was her argument that the queer community "must" come out of the closet and be completely out at all times as a way to be visible to the Christian community. She claims that "being out" is the only way to live authentically.

While I understand that living authentically is the healthiest way to live both mentally and spiritually, it is not always safe for people to live visibly queer. There are true dangers out there and sometimes living stealth is the only way to survive. So if Edman means to live out for yourself so that you can be your true self, I understand that and it makes sense. But if she is insisting that everyone needs to be out to the public, then I am hesitant to support her on that matter.

"Queer Virtue" won't be the first book I recommend, but I also won't tell you not to read it. My caution is it needs to be acknowledged that this is only one point of view and should be part of a series of books you read from the queer community. If this is the only book you read about Christianity and 2SLGBTQIA* folx, you will be sorely short-changed.

Wednesday, July 12, 2023

The Parable of the Soil, the Seed, and the Sower: A Sermon for the 7th Week After Pentecost


Jesus loves to teach through story, but, if you ask me, none of his stories are straight forward. They are interpreted by the listener through their perspective and often different listeners gain different lessons. The parable of the sower is no exception.

 

When hearing the parable of the sower, do you see yourself as the soil, the seed, or the sower?


Scattering seed was (and in some places still is) a relatively efficient way to plant a large field of grain. The procedure described in the parable is faithful to the manner in which a Palestinian farmer would have gone about the work. A sower goes out to sow, scattering the seed wildly, not in neat little rows like how most people try to plant their garden.

 

In Palestine, the grain was harvested in June, and the field was left until the sowing time of November or December. The field might be plowed after the harvest, but it was not plowed again before the new crop was sowed. So, the sower was walking across stubble that had grown in the field after the last harvest. The farmer would throw the seeds across the ground, trying to cover as much area as possible. Then it was plowed quickly so that the birds did not eat the majority of the seed.

 

It makes sense then that some seed would fall on the walking path that would later be plowed, some eaten by the birds, some into the thistle bushes, and some onto hidden limestone in the soil.


The seed on the limestone would grow quickly but burn in the sun. The seed in the thistle bushes would be hidden from the sun and not grow at all. It could be quite discouraging for the farmer, but the seed that fell into the good soil would grow plentifully.

 

Planting is only part of the job. We cannot control the sunshine or the rain or see what is going on beneath the earth. But we trust that what we have planted will grow, bloom, and bring forth a harvest.

 

Are we the sower or the seeds? Are we planting or being planted?

 

There is a third angle at which we can view this parable – that we are neither the seed nor the sower, but instead we are the soil.

 

As every gardener knows, it’s all about the soil. Without good soil, worked with compost, seeds cannot flourish. The seed that lands where the soil has become hardened from being repeatedly walked on simply sits on the surface, waiting to become food for the birds. The seed that falls on rocky soil has difficulty taking root because the soil inhibits the growth of roots, necessary for plants to access the nutrients in the soil. The seed that falls on ground covered in thorns must compete with already well-established, invasive plants and stands little chance. But the seed that falls on the soil that has been prepared, turned over and loosened until it is fine, replenished with nutrients from the decaying matter of leaves, thrives.

 

Rather than being about the planter of the word (as the sower), or the word itself (as the seed), perhaps the parable is about the soil, as the hearers of God’s word?

 

Soil, like human beings, is shaped by its environment. So, if soil is walked on over and over again, beaten down so that it becomes packed hard, it is no longer fit for the planting of seeds. We see this in the human community too. People who have been walked on over, and over, and over again often develop a hardened exterior to protect themselves.

 

Rocky soil, says Jesus, describes those who lack the staying power to deal with rocky ground. When the going gets rough, they go into retreat.

 

The soil filled with thorns easily translates into our overcrowded lives; there is no room in an already overplanted plot for anything more, even with double-digging the beds.

 

Good soil takes years to cultivate. It must be fed, nurtured by the remains of plants that have come and gone. It must be worked and reworked so that it becomes supple, but not worked so hard that its structure is broken down. And it must be replenished, as seeds grow and draw on its nutrients. Good soil can develop in nature, as years of leaves fall and dissolve into the earth. Good soil can also be the work of gardeners, who tend the soil as carefully as they tend the plants.

 

While we set about cultivating good soil, we are not without hope. It is true that seeds landing on hard or rocky ground stand less of a chance of gaining root and thriving, but it does, sometimes, happen.

 

So, it is with God’s Word, which we are to scatter wildly, telling people of the love and forgiveness that only comes from God. God directs the Word, opening hardened hearts to hear and drawing people near. God’s Word carries out the purposes God desires. It never returns empty. Just as the Spirit of God moved over the earth at Creation, so the Spirit of God continues to move in our lives, creating new life through God’s amazing Word of hope.

 

There are remarkable pictures of trees growing out of rocks and flowers that push up through the pavement. These tenacious plants offer signs that the word of God will continue to find a way to grow even on the days when we feel beaten down, or overcome by thorns, or at our rockiest.

Where might God be calling you to scatter seeds of love wildly today?

 

What does it mean to be good soil, prepared to receive the word of God?

 

How do we assess what kind of shape our soil is in?

 

What would we need to do for the seed to be able to take root in our bodies and souls?

 

How will we know if this is happening?

 

And how might we nurture good soil in those around us?

 

What a formidable responsibility on behalf of those waiting to hear God’s word! But we do not sow seed alone and we are not the only yard of soil in the ground.

 

Other disciples go with us sharing their unique gifts. The Holy Spirit empowers us to do God’s will and promises that the word of God we share will not return empty. This is the magnificent power and grace of God who produces a crop a hundred times more than what we expect.

 

So, are you the soil, the seed, or the sower?

 

Perhaps we are a little bit of all three.

 

Amen.

Tuesday, July 11, 2023

A Review of the Book "The Trumpet of the Swan" by E.B. White


Title: The Trumpet of the Swan
Author: E.B White
Publisher: Harper Collins Publishers
Year: 1970
210 pages

We added this book to our collection simply because it was authored by E.B. White (Charolette's Web). I don't read children's stories often but I thought this might be a good break from some of the other reading I typically have on the go.

"Trumpet of the Swan" is about a young swan and a young boy who go through the experiences of growing up, of trying to find their way in the world. They don't know each other's language and yet they form a bond that is unbreakable across distances or time. It is also a book about being different and what it feels like to grow up knowing that you are different from others around you.

It is a sweet book that is quite well-written with some beautiful artwork scattered throughout the pages. The characters are lovely and you can't help but be excited for Louis the swan as he experiences many adventures. It is an easy read for a lazy summer day.